Jay finally pulled back the curtain
Though it was all but confirmed at this point via the back-and-forth on their albums Lemonade and 4:44, Jay-Z has finally stated in no uncertain terms that he cheated on Beyoncé.
In a new wide-ranging interview with the New York Times, Jigga revealed that he stepped out on his wife and explained why he did it. In short, Jay went into an emotionless headspace to get through his everyday life and eventually that extended to his wife.
“You have to survive. So you go into survival mode and when you go into survival mode, what happens? You shut down all emotions,” he said. “So, even with women, you gonna shut down emotionally, so you can’t connect. In my case, like, it’s deep. And then all the things that happen from there: infidelity.”
Getting Through It
Jay said that the pair got through their fight with his infidelities by recording music together that addressed their relationship. Ultimately, this joint project was never released… but it does seem like Lemonade and 4:44 both sprung from these sessions. He explained to the New York Times:
“We were using our art almost like a therapy session. And we started making music together.
And then the music she was making at that time was further along. So her album came out as opposed to the joint album that we were working on. Um, we still have a lot of that music. And this is what it became. There was never a point where it was like, ‘I’m making this album.’ I was right there the entire time.”
Jay added that the hardest part of getting through these problems is seeing the pain you’ve caused your partner. He thinks that an inability to face that pain is why so many marriages end in divorce these days.
“People walk away. Divorce rate is like 50% or something, because most people can’t see themselves,” he said. “The hardest thing is seeing pain on someone’s face that you caused, and then you have to deal with yourself. Most people don’t want to do that. You don’t want to look inside yourself, and so you walk away.”
He said that they made a point of confronting their issues head-on.
“We were sitting in the eye of that hurricane,” he said. He continued:
“But the best place is right in the middle of the pain. And that’s where we were sitting. And it was uncomfortable. And we had a lot of conversations. You know. [I was] really proud of the music she made, and she was really proud of the art I released. And, you know, at the end of the day we really have a healthy respect for one another’s craft. I think she’s amazing.”
It seems to have worked. Not only are Jay and Bey still a thing but the decision to be open and honest about what happened helped spawn two of the most-lauded albums of the decade.
Love lives, y’all. Jay and Bey made it through.
Read over or watch the whole interview over at the New York Times. What do you think? Are you proud of the couple for working through their issues? Should they stay together? Would you try to work it out in the same situation? Sound off in the comments and be sure to SHARE this article.